Anyone who has children, or expects to have them, want them not to get in trouble, to do well in school and to do incredible things in the professional world. Although there is no recipe for raising successful children, research has highlighted some useful factors that predict success.
1. High expectations.
Using data from a survey of 6,600 children born in 2001, Professor Neal Halfon and his colleagues discovered that the expectations parents had of their children had a great effect on their achievements. According to Halfon, parents who saw the university in their children’s future seemed to lead them to reach their goals regardless of the family’s income.
This also has to do with the Pygmalion Effect, which states that what one person expects from another can influence their performance. In the case of children: they live to meet the expectations of their parents.
2. A higher socioeconomic status.
Tragically, many grow up in poverty, a situation that severely limits their potential. It is currently becoming more extreme. According to a Stanford University study, assessments of children with more money come out better than those of those who do not have many resources.
3. High educational levels.
A 2014 study conducted by the University of Michigan says that mothers who finish school raises children who do too. On the other hand, those born when the mother is 18 years old or younger do not usually finish their studies.
The aspiration is partly responsible. In a study by Bowling Green University, he affirms that the educational level of the parents when the child is eight years old produces the professional and educational success of the latter significantly 40 years later.
4. Premature academic skills.
A 2007 meta-analysis of 35,000 preschool children in the United States, Canada, and England says that developing students’ mathematical skills in advance can be a great advantage.
5. Offer better care.
A 2014 study of 243 low-income people indicates that children who received this type of care in the first three years not only had better performance on their academic exams but also had healthier relationships and great achievements at 30. Giving them love provides a safe base to explore the world.
6. Avoid wasted time with children.
According to new research in the Washington Post, the number of hours that moms spend with their children between the ages of three and 11 does very little to predict their behavior, well-being, and achievements. In fact, the more the hot flashes are less likely to succeed.
There is also emotional contagion, which indicates that it is possible for children to become infected with the parents’ mood. If they are happy the others will be, if they are tired or frustrated, they can transfer it to their children.
7. Teach a growth mindset.
For decades, psychologist Carol Dweck has said that children (and adults) see success in two ways:
- A “fixed mentality” assumes that our character, intelligence, and creative ability are things that we have and that we cannot change in a meaningful way. In addition, success is the affirmation of that inherent intelligence. Fighting for success and avoiding failure at all costs become a way of maintaining the sense of being intelligent or skilled.
- A “growth mindset” likes the challenge and sees failure not as evidence of not being intelligent, but as a form of growth and expanding existing skills.
In the center is a distinction in the way you assume how your will affects your ability, and that has a great effect on children. If they are told that they went very well on the exam because of their innate intelligence, they will have a “fixed mindset.” If they are doing well due to the effort that will give them a “growth mindset.”
So, when you congratulate your children do not do it because they were intelligent but by great effort.